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If you want something different to happen...

2010-06-01T17:02:00.007-04:00

...then you have to do something differently. Makes sense-but it is not always so easy to do. Most of my clients want to be perceived differently yet many are hesitant to embrace change.
Changing your appearance, your body language and your improving your communication skills, will absolutely improve your life. So why are so many people stuck? It all comes down to fear. Fear of feeling foolish. Fear of looking like you are trying too hard and for some it is even fear of success.

Fear can't be avoided but it can be managed. That's why my clients all love my TLC.
Embrace the fear. It means you are alive and moving forward toward bigger and better things. Life is too short to be anything but Wow!

Want To Turn Back Time?

2009-11-10T09:29:00.001-05:00

Beauty "Finds" at Whole Foods

2009-11-07T09:49:00.002-05:00

Women in France and italy

2009-06-19T14:32:00.004-04:00

During a recent trip abroad I was looking forward to exploring the difference between Italian women and French woman's fashion choices. I was particularly interested in women 40 and older. It was June and in both countries the women chose muted tones but did not shy away from white. In past trips during the winter I have noticed a prevalence of black. The most obvious differences were that french women still wore scarves and the Italian women wore more jewelry especially gold. Both countries had women who were beautifully fit, coiffed and brown. I admired their preference for linens and silk and I was shocked at how many business women I saw beautifully dressed driving scooters.

A Great Weekend Escape!

2009-02-04T11:36:00.006-05:00

Last weekend I escaped to the mountains in Pennsylvania to pamper myself. My girlfriend and I prefer different activities than our husbands, so off we went to indulge ourselves in 24 hours of pure bliss.

We drove to Nemacolin Woodlands Resort which is about 3 hours northwest of Washington. As we climbed into the mountains there were farms covered in snow and we really felt like we were entering a winter wonderland. Arriving just in time for our "Stone" Massage, we slipped into our plush robes and slippers and entered the waiting area. This soothing room was quiet, had tea, cucumber or lemon water, and comfy chairs. It was bathed in sunlight and lots of women, of different ages , sizes and shapes all anticipating their chosen treatment. When my name was called, I followed my masseuse down a corridor to my cozy room. With relaxing music and those experienced hands kneading out all of my knots, I sunk into oblivian. The warm stones seemed to penetrate my soul. When my hours was up I reluctantly flowed to the giant indoor hot tub. With 25 feet of windows I felt like I was on top of the world. The clouds and birds entertained me as I soaked my body, languishing in my relaxed stupor.

With an appointment for an art tour and a wine tasting in the afternoon, we had to shower and dress for the fun plans that would complete the day. Timothy, our art guide
was fun and informative. With a 45 million dollar art collection to explore , we were in heaven. We were so enthralled with Timothy's stories and info that we were almost late for our wine tasting at the Académie du Vin. We sipped wine valued from $20.00 to $120.00, and loved learning all the details.

Giddy from wine, relaxed from the spa, and inspired from the art-there was nothing left to do-but eat. So we indulged in home-baked bread and fresh pasta and lobster at one of the many restaurants on the premises. The entire meal was the perfect ending to a perfect day.

Rejuvenated, we drove home the next day after one more visit to the spa. I look forward to many more visits to Nemacolin...want to join me?

Tips for updating your look on a budget

2009-01-27T22:25:00.003-05:00

Here are a few ways to update and enhance your look without breaking the bank:

Ruffled blouses-white or in colors-they will add some whimsy to your look.

Belted anything- sweaters, coats, jackets, blouses – Skinny belts, fabric belts and wide belts, add a touch of “now” to your wardrobe.

*Embellished tops and bejeweled shoes- Buy them on sale or save even more money by making your own… pick up flat backed jewels at fabric or craft store and glue on with fabric glue.

*Multiple necklaces- Want the runway look of long chains draped around your neck? Mix them up or wear multiples of the same necklace. Check out the discount accessory stores.

*Lashes: curl them if they are straight-apply 2 coats of mascara. If your lashes are really short or thin consider playing with individual lashes or strip lashes. Use Duo adhesive and realize that there is a learning curve to learning how to apply the lashes. Look, It is not brain surgery, with practice you can do this!

*Lip stains and long-wear lipstick: No need to buy $30.00 Department store brands. Check out Cover Girl OUTLAST lip color at the drug or discount stores.

Worldwide Fashion tips on allexperts.com

2009-01-18T21:04:00.004-05:00

I decided to send in my resume to allexperts.com to see if they were interested in having me as a fashion expert. I was happily accepted and I have been getting questions about fashion from all over the world. I was surprised to hear from people in the Middle East and Africa. I love brainstorming about their fashion dilemmas and feeling connected to women I will never actually meet in person. It underscores the belief that all of us want to look our best, no matter what our age or where we live.
Got a question? Email me directly or go to allexperts.com where you can rate my answer.

With the new year has come lots of new goals and opportunities. I will be speaking at The Wednesday Morning Group in Silver Spring, MD on the 21st of January and I am presenting, "Maximizing Your Power In The 21st Century" for Montgomery Women in Rockville, Md. February 11.

If you are rethinking your appearance in 2009 then take a moment and fill out the questionnaire on kimfoleystyle.com. This will help you clarify how to begin.

Stop by in a few days for my tips on how to recession proof your beauty and fashion needs for 2009.

The Power of Color

2008-12-08T14:08:00.003-05:00

Fashion and Beauty Gifts for the Holidays

2008-11-30T18:57:00.002-05:00

Holiday Gifts at Macy's and Sephora

2008-11-16T12:36:00.002-05:00

Great Finds at Eastern Market

2008-11-07T14:18:00.002-05:00

Boots, Boots and More Boots!

2008-10-31T09:04:00.002-04:00

Style... On The Street

2008-10-23T19:33:00.002-04:00

Fabulous FLea Market Finds!

2008-10-16T21:03:00.001-04:00

Metallics are back!

2008-10-13T20:28:00.001-04:00

New and fun for fall

2008-10-12T12:01:00.003-04:00

It is time to put away your hard core summer items and look toward fall trends. I love finding things that I enjoyed wearing last year as I pull out my fall and winter pieces. Get current by adding touches of metallic, lace jackets and vests and patterned stockings. Large handbags are bigger than ever and the matchy-matchy look is definitely not cool.
Stay tuned every Friday for my Style Podcast showing you all the latest trends and fashion and beauty finds in DC.

Think again!

2008-10-01T21:09:00.000-04:00

There should be a “rule” book for fashion
As I go about my day, I can’t help wondering if some people actually look in the mirror before they leave the house. I am disturbed when I see women who otherwise look “put together” wearing things that derail their credibility.
Three things that I saw today:
1. A fabulously dressed woman wearing chipped, grown-out nail polish. Come on ladies, even if you do not have the time to get a fresh manicure, at least remove the chipped polish.
2. An otherwise beautifully dressed woman wearing tired, old - fashioned shoes. I know, they are all broken in and comfy, but there is no point in spending the time and money to dress well and then ruin it by stating you do not care by wearing old standby’s. With all the shoe choices today, you can absolutely have comfort and style.
3. A high level female official chewing gum as she walked on stage.
Do not, DO NOT chew gum in public. Regardless as to whether you think it is fine to do so- others do not. Trust me on this - it’s a small sacrifice for a huge gain in credibility.

Having fun with accessories

2008-09-30T17:29:00.000-04:00

The right accessories can really pop an outfit. Less is always better and classic or traditional pieces are best in corporate environments. Larger, more dramatic fashion pieces are good for less conservative environments or for evening. Remember, there is a language to your accessories. Quality is the word that should come to mind when dressing for traditional or corporate workplaces. Do not wear earrings, a bracelet and necklace all at the same time. Remember scale when choosing new pieces. Have fun, be adventurous and keep your receipt in case you change your mind once you get home.

Save time in the morning...

2008-09-29T17:07:00.000-04:00

Several people have asked me how to get dressed for work without having to think or make decisions. It seems that many women want to look great everyday but they do not want to put in a lot of effort making decisions about “what” goes with “what.” A great alternative to putting together ensembles from separates is to move toward wearing suits.
By having five or more suits, you can easily solve this problem. Couple them with different blouses, shells or sweaters and jewelry, and you can create many looks without a lot of thought.
TIP: Always plan on having your “off the rack” suit tailored. Nothing is more powerful looking than a woman in a perfectly fitted suit. Ill-fitting suits under-mind your credibility.

I just saved time and money!

2008-09-17T13:16:00.000-04:00

Every once in a while you pop into a store expecting to find nothing but luckily find everything you need. I hit the jackpot last week when Karen, a superb sales associate, helped me consider some new looks at the Chico’s in Friendship Heights, Maryland. I was desperate to find white and beige sleeveless shells to wear under suits. I wanted them to have a scoop neck, but I did not want them to be low-cut. I had tried 7 stores with out results. Not only did I find the shells in a rainbow of colors, I also found some new jackets. Chico’s has added some fitted items that are very flattering. I have always loved the fabrics at Chico’s but hated the boxy cuts. Now I have four new items to pair with my great fitting Chico’s pants.
And just to complete the look, Karen showed me some fabulous jewelry. I saved so much time and money (many items were on sale). If you are in the DC area go see Karen at Chico’s and then TRY ON the items she suggests.

You just might be pleasantly surprised.

Do you look tired at the end of the day?

2008-08-19T16:52:00.001-04:00

You get a call to join a group of friends for dinner after work. You take a quick look in the mirror and you look like you need a complete overhaul. Don’t worry! Here are a few tricks that will have you looking great in no time.

1.If you have mascara residue or concealer that has creased under your eyes, dab a bit of any moisturizer under your eyes and wipe gently with a soft tissue.
2 Even your skin tone with a swipe of powder foundation and then apply some blush.
3.Freshen your liner
4.Apply your favorite lip color

There you go… a two minute, fresh look for your fun night out!

Is it safe to get a manicure or pedicure?

2008-08-11T17:08:00.001-04:00

It may be time to rethink your health when you drop in to get a manicure or pedicure. Do you really want to breath those noxious fumes for 30 minutes? I haven’t found a nail salon that has enough power in their exhaust system to completely clear the air. Another health hazard is the transference of serious illness (Hepatitis, HIV, etc.) from nail files and cuticle nippers used on infected people. Don’t want to give up your favorite treat? Here is a solution: Take your own manicure tools and ask that they be used. If they refuse, go elsewhere - your health is too important.

Do you need a concealer?

2008-08-06T17:30:00.000-04:00

Do you have dark circles, broken capillaries or dark age spots on your face?
You should consider checking with a cosmetic dermatologist or plastic surgeon to see if laser treatment can eliminate you problem. But until then, try using a good concealer that perfectly matches your skin tone, to hide these pesky but common problems. My favorite is Glo Mineral, ,but so many companies have perfected their concealers, giving us lots to choose from. I use a dabbing techniques opposed to a wiping stroke. Tap, tap, tap to apply more or to blend. Concealer can be worn alone or under your foundation. Set with a bit of powder and your skin will look even and younger.

Are you a shlumpadinka?

2008-08-05T17:44:00.000-04:00

I love that word, and in case you do not watch Oprah shlumpadinka means ”frumpy.”
Yes, we all feel like we look frumpy at times but just what is it that really takes us from vibrant, cool women to an over - the - hill frump? Our hairstyle, our clothing are big contributors to the frump factor but, THE MOST IMPORTANT GIVE AWAY IS: extra weight. Extra weight not only makes us look older, but it also inhibits the way we move. We are not a light on our feet, and flexible when we are not fit. In addition, our knees and feet often hurt keeping us in a catch 22 when it comes to increasing movement. Losing those extra pounds can be tricky but ever person I know who has done an organized program such as Weight Watchers, Diet To Go or Jenny Craig, have lost weight and kept it off. Once you really commit and have support, your odds greatly improve for your success. You can do it!

Accessorize!

2008-07-31T17:50:00.004-04:00

So many women ask me how to use accessories. Here are some do's and dont's that should be mentioned.
1. If in doubt, wear less-elegance is impossible if you have too much going on visually.
2.If you have a short neck or a double chin do not wear chokers or very short necklaces.
3.Avoid perfectly matching earrings and necklaces. Items should coordinate but tend to look more creative and individual if they are not a perfectly matched set.
4.Avoid chunky large necklaces if you are under 5'3" or on the thin side. Large jewelry will over-power and distract from your overall look.
5.Before purchasing inexpensive pieces, ask yourself if it looks worthy to be part of your whole ensemble.

Just some tips to help get you strated on using accessories to pop that fabulous outfit. Don't get in a rut, try some new things and see the reaction. Remember accessorese tell a story , they can be funky, sophisticated, tailored or elegant.
Have fun!

Younger looking skin fast!

2008-07-22T17:13:00.003-04:00

Yes, it is important to moisturize , moisturize, moisturize even in the summer, but we also have to exfoliate. I have been seeing so many clients with dry, mottled skin. With summer just half over, it may be the perfect time for you to exfoliate and hydrate. Nothing looks worse on mature skin as makeup settling in the fine lines. Here are some remedies to try:
For an at home facial, try using a homemade scrub with sugar to help shed dead skin cells without drying out the skin. Massage gently and remove with a warm wash cloth. Follow with a your favorite serum or night cream. For an even more dramatic result have a micro-dermabrasion at your dermatologist's office. Either way, you will see a refreshing improvement to the surface of your skin.

I love pretty shoes, but my feet are rebelling

2008-07-11T13:58:00.001-04:00

Lets face it, if you are dressed well but have frumpy or tired shoes it absolutely reduces the impact you were trying to achieve. After years of standing all day in high heels, my feet suddenly feel tired and worn out. Every shoe seems to hurt, and I noticed some rough calluses on the bottom of my feet. Maybe I should get a pedicure? No, that just won’t work for me. Every time I try it I can’t stand all that touching on my feet. I am apparently very ticklish. Now that it is summer and everyone is in sandals or flip flops, I started looking at everyone’s feet. I‘ve been wondering how I can keep my feet from becoming unattractive with corns, bunions and calluses and I have to learn how to keep these poor, little tootsies from hurting.
I decided to consult a podiatrist and get their opinion on prevention and foot care.
I was dreading my visit, afraid that he would hurt me, or worse, tell me I can’t wear my heels anymore. To my surprise it was a delightful experience. First he analyzed my feet and told me the reason my feet were hurting so much is because of my high arch. He suggested foot inserts (orthotics) to support my arch and take pressure of the ball of my foot. He also said I could but the over- the- counter, Super Feet brand at Nordstom’s. They make many inserts including some that are thin to wear with dress shoes.
He then removed the dead skin and buffed my heels with a sanding tool. The result is a soft pliable foot that looks and feels better. He recommended that I apply moisturizer to my feet every night before going to bed (not between the toes).
I went right out and bought New Balance sneakers for walking the dog and various arch supports for my shoes and now these feet feel good as new. I can’t believe that it took all these years to find out that people with a high arch may need some help in caring for their feet. I had only heard about people with flat feet having issues.
Now I smile instead of frown as I don my red patent leather pumps!

Is your hair brassy or sassy?

2008-07-10T16:28:00.001-04:00

Those of us who color their hair (and there are many) may need to learn the difference between the term "brassy" and "golden." It seems that as we get older many women go lighter and unfortunately many women allow their hair to have an ash tone. This is usually due to a desperate attempt to avoid going brassy. Lets clear this up once and for all. Brassy is orange, warm golden tones are just that.
Imprint this permanently in your brain: going “ash” only serves to make you look older. Warm blonds and browns look much younger and richer than the drab, ash tones that so many women are drawn to. Wonder if your color has the wrong tone? Ask a few friends that you think will tell you the truth if your hair looks drab and gray…and if you do color your hair make sure not to wait until the roots show to do your touch up. Remember, if you see gray roots in the mirror, others can see them too.

My face doesn't match my body

2008-07-09T16:11:00.000-04:00

I have just returned from a wonderfully relaxing week at the beach and even though I use sunscreen, my body gets tan, but my face is very white. I always cover my face with sunscreen and wear a hat in the sun to have double protection for my face. This looks odd, so I tried a variety of ways to make the color look more balanced. Here are the results:
1. Self-tanning creams for the face.
Not a good resolution for me- it settles in the fine lines and it also darkens the “age spots” on my face making them more prominent.
2. Gel or stick bronzers – These products are difficult to apply evenly and sometimes grab on dry areas of skin. In addition many of these products seem to produce either a orangey color or a color that resembles mud. They also sometimes contain iridescence. I absolutely do not want little sparkles all over my face.
3. I finally found a brush –on, matte powder bronzer, by Bobbi Brown, that gives a totally natural tan look to the skin. I apply it with a large brush and can give myself just a hint a color or a deep, rich tan.
Problem solved, now I love my summer look and I didn’t have to damage my skin to get it! I love the look so much I just might use it all winter too!

Do you ever feel like you are disappearing?

2008-06-16T07:25:00.003-04:00

I get many emails asking questions about various makeup and wardrobe issues. I received one this past week that I could personally relate to. It seems that this reader saw a recent picture of herself and her teenage daughter. She was shocked to see that she seemed to look washed-out and "faded" in the photograph. She said she felt like she was going to disappear. Then she asked her teenage daughter to come stand in the mirror with her so she could see why she looked bad in the photograph. That was when she realized that she really did look like she was disappearing. She wanted to know what she could do that was not to involved to look better.

Well, it is true that we lose pigment in our hair, eyebrows, eyelashes, iris, and lips as we get older. This is why so many women who haven't used makeup when they are younger find that they love it as they get older. The single most important technique you can do to look better is to use mascara or eyeliner or both. It needn't be dark and severe, but enough to define the eyes. My favorite mascara is KISS ME by BLINC. It will not come off under your eyes like traditional waxy mascara. I also love the gel liner by Bobbi Brown. Ask the sales associate to teach you how to apply the liner with the special brush. These two products takes seconds to apply and will stay put all day.

Do you have a beauty or fashion dilemma? email me at:kim@kimfoleystyle.com

Labels do not tell the whole story

2008-06-10T22:52:00.002-04:00

I was talking with someone recently about “what I do.” It became clear to me that sometimes the label of “what we do” is not always clearly reflected in our job title. I am known as a television stylist/image consultant/ makeup artist, but what I do, is make men and women look and feel better. When it comes to improving or fine-tuning image, it gets complex dealing with the nuances of each individual. There is no one right way to improve your appearance and maximize your confidence. Each day with each new client, I have the opportunity and the privilege to help individuals develop a new understanding of aesthetics. I can't wait for tomorrow - It is so exciting to watch people get excited about what they see when they look in the mirror. No matter what you call it, it is the perfect job for me.

For less than perfect skin – I use an airbrush

2008-06-06T17:08:00.000-04:00

How would you feel if you were 17 and you were asked to speak at your graduation and your skin was red, blotchy and, shall we say, less than perfect? I got a frantic call from an old friend trying to find a quick fix for her daughter’s skin on her big day. Covering pimples and making it look natural is tricky. Lucky for her I have the perfect tool - an airbrush. A few drops of this and a little of that, and I was soon working my magic. I was able to give her flawless looking skin in minutes. When I held up the mirror for her to have a look, I saw tears well up in her eyes as she said. I didn’t know I could look this good.” WOW! I work with some of the most famous people in the world, but nothing feels as good as helping a young person see themselves as beautiful.

It is time to re-think business wear

2008-06-03T17:24:00.002-04:00

There are two worlds of fashion:
1. Fashion for the masses that is based first in functionality and second on style
2. Fashion focused on detail, line, form otherwise known as Haute Couture. It is fabulous. It is art and it is definitely not for the masses.

Attention all designers, clothing manufacturers and retailer- we, (the masses) need better business wear! Many of my clients are seen on television. As most people know, line and drape can magically make you appear ten pounds thinner or ten pounds heavier (this is true whether you are on camera or not). Well who wants to look heavier than they are? Those of us who have a “ less than perfect” figure, crave sleek, tailored styles that help us look taller and thinner.

Color is also critical- black and navy blue are power suits, but a girl has to have some alternatives. Mid-tones, other than gray, would be spectacular. Ditch the fabrics that will not drape over our soft curves and place the pockets strategically for slimming, not for style. The discussion of form and function will never end, but detail, flair and style need not be compromised for functionality.
I am very particular when choosing the style of my jackets. The jacket is the symbol of authority and it is the one article of clothing that has the capability of creating a look of power and sophistication or diminishing you into a clueless fool. I recently worked with Condoleezza Rice and the first thing she said to me as she entered the room was, “I love your jacket.” (Bingo!)

My dream - to design a fabulous line of business wear for women using all my experience of what works and what doesn’t, to create suits that are flattering for all shapes and sizes.
LISTEN UP DESIGNERS: WE WANT GREAT FABRICS, VARIETY AND FUNCTIONAL BUSINESS WEAR- AND OH, BY THE WAY, IT CAN’T BREAK THE BANK!

Take time to assess you wardrobe, hairstyle and makeup

2008-06-02T17:33:00.001-04:00

Clothing, hairstyle and makeup are three elements that project an overall impression about who you are. Some women develop or focus on one of these three elements and never pay attention to the other two. You have probably noticed this unfortunate trend in a friend or colleague. They spend time on their hair, but have clothing that is unflattering, or they spend time having their nails done every week but pay no attention to their hair color, or style. It is so hard to be objective with ourselves. We all do things out of habit. Take a look at your hairstyle. Is it the best style and color for you? Be bold, ask two friends you really trust to tell you honestly what they think. What about your makeup? Do you think you wear too much or too little? Ask someone you trust about your fashion and beauty dilemmas, and then listen. When picking out new glasses, try on the styles that the sales associate recommends. Usually they are right on when it comes to the best style for you.
Open your mind to some new possibilities. You don’t have to adopt a new style you are trying on, just be willing to try to see yourself differently.
You just may be surprised!

What are you going to wear to your reunion?

2008-06-01T20:39:00.000-04:00

Summertime brings all kinds of situations that cause anxiety when it comes to choosing the right clothing. I’ve had many emails asking me what to wear to high school and college reunions. Usually reunions have casual events and one evening with dinner and dancing. The invitation will indicate if your event is casual, dressy, dressy casual, black tie or black tie optional. Geographic location also plays a part in choosing your wardrobe. You may be from the northeast where colors are more subdued and evenings are cool, but if your reunion is in Miami you should consider wearing bright colors or tropical prints and lighter weight fabrics. One of the most annoying situations is when you have a black tie event in the summer and you wear a fabulous dress but spend the whole night shivering under your husband’s dinner jacket because the air conditioning is too high.
Plan ahead – Check the web for the 5 -day weather forecast before you pack.

Know what styles flatter your shape – This is not the time to experiment with a new style. Be true to your self and dress in clothing that makes you feel good. This is the time to be confident and comfortable. If you want to try a new hairstyle or haircolor, try it out a month or two before the event.
Wear shoes that don’ t hurt your feet – Yes, I know you found the most adorable pair of shoes, but if you can not stand or dance for three hours without complaining, then those shoes stay home!

Smile - Remember, people who smile easily are always perceived as being more attractive than those who don’t.

Should you color your hair?

2008-05-28T21:26:00.000-04:00

This is a loaded question. No one can decide for you what steps you should take when it comes to your hair color. This is a very personal choice. Some women look fabulous with salt and pepper or silver hair, while others just look older, significantly older. Yes, I know, I hear it all the time: “Most men let their hair go grey so why should we have to color our hair?”
We don’t, but since women are living longer and working longer, the marketplace has become more competitive. Unfortunately, ageism is alive and well. Speaking strictly for myself, I see haircolor as another tool in my toolbox that helps me feel young and vibrant and more attractive.
Haircolor is not for everyone, but going gray can add 5-15 years to your perceived age; and using the wrong haircolor shade can be worse than using no hair color at all. Drab, ash - tones, harsh, dark colors or bleached - out blondes are simply not flattering to older skin tones.
Getting older is inevitable. Why focus on a number? The important issue to consider when making decisions on your appearance is to think about the goal. In other words, what can hair color, specific clothing or makeup styles, do for you? Often, women’s choice to color their hair is a reaction to the fear of being seen as invisible, matronly or out-dated. Whenever I consider not coloring my hair, images of Aunt Bea still linger in my head, propelling me to run, not walk, down the closest haircolor isle.

Some writers are rethinking their image

2008-05-27T17:20:00.003-04:00

I have had an influx of writers seeking out my services this year. Their reasons vary, from wanting to become media savvy for their book tours to learning how to “fine tune” their appearance for meetings with potential clients.
Clearly, people in different industries have different issues that they want to address when thinking about the images they project. Writers often talk to me about the conflict they feel in reassessing their image as they get older. For many, as young women, it was easy to embrace the totally natural look, rejecting certain styles of clothing, hairstyles, and makeup.
This was the frame of mind that intellectual women embraced in the 1960s and 70s; today, many of these women look in the mirror and wonder if their credibility is being sabotaged because they don’t know how to improve their image. It is usually around age 40, that women look in the mirror and realize that what worked for them at 25 no longer serves them well. They used to be vibrant and attractive without having to use makeup or think very much about what they were wearing; and that’s just not true anymore.
Once women come to this realization they often feel conflicted about what they perceive as an abandonment of their values. I grew up in the 60’s and 70’s, and I understand these feelings of ambivalence.
It can be hard to break through this impasse. Some women feel foolish asking for help; others feel that it’s hopeless for anyone to help them. They feel they are torn between being true to themselves and their basic values, and their dawning awareness that by adopting a few simple skills and techniques from the world of fashion, they could look less out-dated, tired, or washed-up.
As a stylist specializing in credibility, I understand that looking glamorous, younger, or thinner isn’t necessarily everyone’s goal. I know what women mean when they tell me they want to look intelligent, memorable, and credible without sacrificing their authentic selves.
After a certain age, a relaxed, attractive, and natural look may require a little help. Together we can brainstorm the options before you, and take the actions to help you look your personal best.

My work is always confidential

2008-05-25T13:32:00.003-04:00

When I go to informal gatherings or parties it is always predictable what will happen about 1 hour into the event. Once it "comes out" that I am a television stylist, I am slowly cornered, surrounded by curious women who want to know who my clients are and what I do to help them with their appearance. I am terribly disappointing speaking about others since I do not reveal the names of clients if they have asked me to keep our time together confidential, plus, even if they have not asked for confidentiality, (as the old saying goes) I do not tell stories out of school. I am quite sure you wouldn't want me telling someone anything about you if you were my client. Whether I am helping a client "fine tune" their appearance or completely revamping someone's image, our time together is so intimate, it must remain private. What makes me so different from other stylists (besides my expertise) is that I am a safe place to land. I see the potential in each person and I feel that it is so very profound and personal to help people evolve and reflect on the outside what they always new was there on the inside.

My work as a stylist is not just about looking younger, thinner, more memorable or more powerful. It is about the possibilities, and about looking in the mirror each day and loving what you see.

Invite me to speak to your organization

2008-05-23T13:39:00.005-04:00

I love speaking to groups and this week I had the opportunity to speak to the sisterhood at Beth El Congregation in Bethesda, Maryland. The topic? How to look 10 years younger and ten pounds thinner. We drew quite the crowd and had a lot of fun discussing wardrobe camouflage techniques, haircolor options and makeup products.
I am always amazed to see accomplished, professional women who are 40, 50 or 60, that do not know how a pair of pants or a jacket should fit! Well, we cleared that all up and now hopefully this information will be passed down to their daughters. Think about it-who teaches us this? Women (and men) watch others and emulate the mistakes they see and assume they are doing the right thing. There are so many things we should each know about ourselves: Are you long-waisted or short-waisted?
Do you know which style trouser, skirt or jacket looks best on you?
What are your 5 best colors? What story do you tell the world about yourself each day through the clothing you wear?
Do you know the symbols of authority, the language of clothing, shoes and accessories?
Could you be sabotaging your best efforts by your appearance?
These are the issues that need to be answered so we can soar in confidence while pursuing our dreams.

Helping new grads go from intern to young professional

2008-05-22T17:48:00.003-04:00

As a television stylist I primarily work with high profile men and women, but recently several people have given a day of shopping with me as a graduation gift. Students usually have very little to choose from in their wardrobe when it comes to professional attire. Suddenly after years of living in flip flops and jeans, these young women need to look like young professionals and not like interns. Often they panic, not knowing how to bridge the gap between looking too old and looking professional. They are usually relieved to have someone they perceive as objective, guide them in exploring clothing options. I start by having them pull together pictures of ensembles that they would like to emulate and then we discuss what those clothing items say about the individual wearing them. Few people ever stop and think about the story they tell through their appearance. It is critical, before we begin shopping, that individuals clarify what they want to project with their clothing choices.

Another challenge encountered while working with those new to wearing and purchasing professional attire, is teaching them how clothing should fit their specific body shape. Men assume that their new suit has to be tailored to fit them, but women do not realize that they should be willing to do the same. No one tells us that very few women can buy items that fit well, right off the rack. A good tailor is to be treasured just like your favorite hairstylist

April in Paris

2008-05-21T18:03:00.000-04:00

Paris in April was fabulously delicious in every way- the food, the fashions and the beauty of the city itself. Planning a trip abroad anytime soon? Well, plan well when it comes to your clothing and shoes! I knew I was going to be walking non-stop so I was worried about which shoes to take. Last trip to Paris I splurged on an expensive pair of European shoes that were designed for walking, but, they lasted only 1 day before they were retired to the “3 hour” bin. This time I went for the Munro flats that were chic and comfortable-12 hours a day on my feet-no problem. These shoes were so perfect I want to buy more styles. Maybe I should buy stock?

Spring Is Here!

2008-04-03T23:30:00.001-04:00

Spring is here and it’s a perfect time to revamp your closet. Check out your favorite spring items that have been stored away for the winter. This is called: shopping your closet. Take an inventory of what you have and what you need to get for the summer months ahead. Take close look at each item with a fresh eye. Is that white blouse looking a tad yellow? Are there loose threads or tears on any item? Does each item fit properly? Which items need to be passed on and which ones need to go to the tailor? Check for stains and missed buttons too.

This season you can wear your summer cardigan with a wide patent belt for a fun trendy look. Consider changing the buttons on an otherwise boring jacket and pick up some colorful flats for a little flair. Nurture a new perspective when putting together old ensembles and you will be amazed to see how many new looks you can achieve.

Frumpy To Fabulous In Seconds

2008-03-27T06:35:00.002-04:00

I saw a woman at the mall today who apparently did not get the memo: leggings are not pants. My guess is that she came straight from the gym…not a good decision. She was slim, late thirties and she had her daughter tightly by the hand as she rushed past me. Leggings are comfortable and perfect for yoga or workouts, but denial has set in once you think that they are a substitute for trousers. On the positive side I thought how confident she must be to parade her backside around in such a very public place. Then the negative thoughts crept in: she is either clueless as to how she looks, or she just doesn’t care. All “sporty mom” had to do was slip on a thigh length tunic and trade the shoes for some cute flats and she would have gone from frumpy to fabulous in seconds.

Fun Jackets and Tops at Stein Mart

2008-03-04T17:12:00.002-05:00

Yesterday, I took a new client shopping. She wanted to update her wardrobe and get some fun colors for spring. She also wanted items that would coordinate with black pants and black skirts. Surprisingly, we found many ideal options. Whether a size 6 or 14, this is an inexpensive and fun resource for trendy additions to your closet.

Looking Great for Their Fun Night Out

2008-02-25T17:12:00.000-05:00

Awards shows are fun because we see our favorite stars in what they hope, is their best light. Glam is back! Feminine hairstyles, minimal jewelry and sophisticated dresses created some of the loveliest looks I’ve seen in years. Did you notice all the trains this year? They look so elegant but can only be worn when practicality is not an issue. If you take one step backward and you are going to take a fall.
Red (my favorite color) was a popular choice and more men than usually donned earrings. All the glitz made me wish I had someplace festive to go.

Five must have wardrobe items

2008-02-20T17:35:00.002-05:00

I love watching other stylists on television do what we do best-radical transformations! Oprah had a great show today which was particularly good because it showed women how to create great casual ensembles without spending a fortune. Truth be told, must women do not need a radical transformation, just a few changes to really show them off in their best light. The one question I hear most is, “ What are the must haves in my wardrobe?” Of course that answer is different for each person since it depends on your lifestyle and where you live geographically, but generally speaking, the items below will serve you well.
• Great fitting black pants- I recommend 2 pair, one hemmed to wear with flats and the other to wear with heels.

• A black and a white (or cream, depending on your coloring) v-neck shell or sweater. Turtlenecks look great on those with long thin necks but most women will look much slimmer and younger in a v-neck top.

• A fabulous crisp white collared blouse. Look for one that is fitted, no- iron and not transparent.

• Classic flats in various colors and textures. These shoes do not need to cost a lot but they do need to be comfortable.

• A black dress that can be accessorized for evenings out or for business. Get a conservative black dress that fits your figure perfectly. Remember, seldom can you find a dress that will fit perfectly without a trip to the tailor.

Confidentiality and Your Personal Stylist

2008-02-13T18:15:00.000-05:00

I had the honor of working with a presidential candidate yesterday. It is interesting to have a career where your skills are in demand but your clients’ identity must be confidential. No one running for office wants the focus to be on his or her makeup, hairstyle or wardrobe. Most people know that both men and women need makeup before a television appearance, but they never see or hear about the stylist. Most stylists follow an unspoken code of ethics: we do not draw attention to ourselves or capitalize on the coat tails of high profile individuals. We understand that the attention needs to be on the politicians and the issues of the campaign. We are there to secure an image of leadership and credibility. Our job, if we are really good at what we do, is to make wardrobe decisions, use our experience to apply makeup that keeps the candidate looking vibrant and healthy and tend to hairstyling issues. With high definition becoming the standard, television stylists now have even more challenges to ensure the candidates’ image enhance rather than detract from their message.

Make your manicure last longer

2008-02-06T17:44:00.000-05:00

I wash my hands about a dozen times a day and it really takes a toll on my manicure. Clean, well-groomed hands are an important part of looking professional so I try all kinds of products to extend chipping time. I choose to wear a very light, natural nail color to minimize the distraction when the polish starts chipping. I have tried the $1.99 top coat, the $22 top coat and everything in between, and I can’t tell the difference in performance. The key to performance seems to be more related to how often and how you use the top coat. My technique: apply a thin coat about 4 days after the manicure and continue to add a coat every 2-3 days. With this technique you can keep the chipped polish at bay for up to 10 days. Saves money and time because now I only need a manicure every 10-14 days!

Give it a shot and let me know how this works for you.

Women in media

2008-02-05T17:56:00.000-05:00

Have you ever noticed that the majority of women who are reporters or news anchors are usually under 35? Ageism is alive and well. Do we, as viewers, only want the young and beautiful delivering the news of the day? There are exceptions, but overall it is hard to believe that so many women flee the airwaves as they approach forty.

Today I worked with a women who is a news anchor for German television. She was in town reporting on Super Tuesday. She is over 40, fit and attractive and has no plans to retire. We discussed the fact that Europe has a different attitude about "aging women."

Instead of the frantic rush to hide all signs of aging the European women seem to age gracefully, staying fit as they embracing their wisdom, experience and even their smile lines.

Sounds like a plan. I 'm all for aging gracefully. I am also not opposed to getting a little help from science, but this trend to wipe out all signs of aging is just plain creepy.

That said, now I think I need to go slather on some anti-wrinkle cream.

Image and Credibility

2008-02-03T07:28:00.000-05:00

News articles abound commenting on the image of each presidential candidate.
Their appearance gives us cues as to how they perceive themselves and how they want to be perceived by others.

For both men and women, the business suit is the accepted attire for the most powerful, credible and successful individuals. The jacket in particular symbolizes authority and gives the appearance of leadership and of being in command. A softer, more approachable look is chosen when the candidates want to be seen as a fellow citizen fighting to address the county’s problems.

The subliminal cues of gesture and body language coupled with overall appearance play a huge factor in the American public ‘s opinion about whom they can trust and who has the knowledge and temperament to lead our country for the next 4 years.

We are fond of telling our children that to care about appearances is superficial.
They might be better off knowing the truth from the start: fair or unfair, like it or not, we are all being judged by others all the time.

• Do you look tired and worn out, or energized and engaged?
• Do you look old-fashioned or current; giving those you meet the confidence that you are well informed?

This is powerful information. Once you are aware of the language of clothing you can make sure the messages you are sending through your appearance are ones of choice and not ignorance.

3 quick ways to become more memorable

2008-02-01T14:43:00.000-05:00

• Sharpen up your body language. Slouching when you stand or walking with your head tilted down screams I LACK SELF ESTEEM. Not only is it better for your bones and joints to stand up straight, but you can command more authority just by changing the way you stand and how you move your body. Look people in the eye. This powerful tool tells people that you are interested in what they have to say. When you look people in the eye, you connect and it tells them you are listening and that you can be trusted. Smile! This universal gesture of acceptance is critical when meeting new acquaintances, courting new clients and it can even help with negotiations.

• Take an objective look at your image. Does your wardrobe need rethinking? Dated, stained or ill-fitting items which have served you well in the past now have to be retired. What do you need to change to really show the world how capable and professional you really are?

• Reassess your attitude? Your attitude about your yourself and your work are screaming out to the world. Do you move with a sense of urgency? Do you dress like you are running the show? Do you speak with a passion about your work? Your appearance and your actions tell the world how you really feel about yourself and your work.

Are your cosmetics safe?

2008-01-28T14:19:00.000-05:00

How sad it is that the health of millions of women could be jeopardized because of the use of some cosmetics and body products. Check out this web site where you can find articles that raise that very important question: Are my cosmetics safe?
(http://www.safecosmetics.org)

Logic tells me that if trans-dermal absorption is a problem for humans when it comes to products we use to clean our home, then why shouldn't we be concerned about the unregulated cosmetics that we use every day? The ingredient list doesn't say "small amounts of lead or mercury" so if you are not a chemist, how would you know? I am grateful that some companies have made a financial commitment to creating formulas that work without causing potential harm. We all know that we will not die from using cosmetics, but the exposure over time has a cumulative affect that could be making you sick.

I am wondering why the billion dollar cosmetic industry has been allowed to create potentially harmful products in the first place. We should demand that testing by independent companies be done to ensure the safety of products. We need regulation if we want this to stop.

What can you do? Take action! If sales plummet, these companies will be forced to reformulate their products.

• Stop purchasing products from companies that use known irritants or carcinogens
• Write to these companies and tell them why you are no longer using their products
• Write to the women’s magazines and tell them to stop accepting advertising from these companies, cancel your subscription or stop buying the magazine
• Call and write your congressperson and ask them to mandate funding for the FDA to do testing of cosmetic and body products.

How to pick the right foundation for you

2008-01-25T23:31:00.000-05:00

Several people have asked how to pick the right foundation. Keep the emails coming at kim@kimfoleystyle.com and I will continue to answer all your style and beauty questions.
First, decide if you want a powder foundation (great for oily or combo skin), or a liquid. Also consider trying mineral foundations they come in both powder and liquid.

Picking the right brand is a matter of personal preference when it comes to texture, coverage and harmful ingredients. Now that we know thatharmful chemicals can be absorbed, you should consider reading labels and being aware of the hazards of some commonly found ingredients in popular cosmetic brands. Some brands have less pigment and are more sheer, while other brands have more pigment and offer a more opaque coverage. Look at the packaging for key words such as "sheer coverage" or "maximum coverage" for clues to the amount of pigment. I use powder foundation in the summer and liquid in the winter.

The purpose of a foundation is to even your skin tone, not to make you look tan. The goal is to match the most prevalent color on your face. The easiest way to get a good match is to apple a small amount on your neck, close to the jawbone. Smooth and blend. If you see the makeup, then it is too dark. This is easy to do in a department store but impossible if you are buying at a drug or discount store. If this is the case, buy 2 or 3 choices in the shades you think are close. When you get home see which one matches and return the others. Check with the store first to be sure they will accept open returns for cosmetics. Most drug stores have a liberal return policy, just be sure you have the receipt.

I have been experimenting with foundations made from "natural" ingredients. The liquid mineral foundation by Shaklee is one of my favorites for several reasons:
.no harmful ingredients
.not tested on animals
.good coverage
.easy to apply
.beautiful shades
.spf 15

Kim

The $64,000.00 question?

2008-01-15T09:12:00.000-05:00

I have been getting emails with the same question lately, "What is the one thing I can do to have a better appearance?"
Some people want a total revamp on their appearance while others just want to take incremental steps in that direction.
Unfortunately, the answer is different for each individual. Think about it, for one person it might be getting a more flattering or current hairstyle, and for others it may be a clothing or makeup issue. Getting a more current pair of glasses might be the answer, working on your posture or body language could al be possibilities. There are two questions you need to ask yourself:

1. "How do I want to be perceived?" Current, professional. artistic, approachable, smart...be specific.
2."What is driving my look?" ie, comfort, style, credibility...
When you honestly answer these questions you will begin to understand why and how you have created the image you now have. Does your image reflect who you are on the inside?
Remember: you are telling your story through your appearance. This is why intentional dressing is so important particularly in the workplace.

Happy New Year!

2008-01-03T16:13:00.000-05:00

Now that it's 2008, it's a great time to think about TRANSFORMATION. At the beginning of each new year I feel as though I am turning a giant page in the story of my life.
Intentions and resolutions are circling my mind as I contemplate my dreams for the next twelve months. My New Years wish for you is that you LOVE WHO YOU SEE IN THE MIRROR.
My mission in life is to help you with that. If you need some new techniques on illusion dressing get the my DVD, "Look Ten Years Younger and Ten Pounds Thinner", or if you want to become more memorable and powerful don't miss my ebook, "The Credibility Factor". I created these resources for any woman who does not have access to a stylist. If you want to schedule a consult with me just email me and I will call you.
Also, I am available by Skype for those of you who do not live outside the DC area or overseas. Skype is a free way to video phone someone on your computer. You can see me and I can see you. This is a great way to get a 2nd opinion on that dress you just bought to wear to that wedding, reunion or special occasion.
Send your questions on image, makeup or fashion at kim@kimfoleystyle.com
Best wishes for the New Year!
Kim

free teleclass today!

2007-12-18T10:24:00.000-05:00

Suzanne Falter-Barnes is a marketing and branding genius! Her site has provided me with new ideas, do's and don'ts, and concrete info on how to get the word out about my business. She offers free teleclasses from time to time with various experts.
Today I will be doing a teleclass with her helping all those who want a more memorable and influential image. Please join us.
Go to :www.getknownnow.com to sign up fro the free class which will be at 1:00 today.
Kim
P.S. I highly recommend her ebook, Get Known Now

Are you wondering what to wear to all the holiday events?

2007-12-09T23:23:00.000-05:00

Holiday festivities are in full swing and the phone calls and emails I am receiving are all sounding the alarm! One client can't fit into her favorite holiday standby. Another client wants to avoid wearing red and needs some suggestions and yet another client wants to know what to wear to look taller and thinner.
OK, Here goes....
If you tried on your favorite holiday outfit and it feels a little too tight: run, don't walk to the nearest mall and get some power panties. Spanx are my favorite but most brands will take you down a size. If this doesn't do the job then it may be time for a new
ensemble.
If you do not want to wear red but you want something with a little pizzaz,wear any color with a some sparkle. This will glam up your outfit giving you some holiday glitz.
Want to look taller and thinner? Wear heels, the highest you can stand. V-necks are always more slimming than hight necklines and if you wear a jacket, make sure it tapers in at the waist and avoid boxy sweaters at all cost.
Happy Holidays!

Help, my face is sagging!

2007-11-24T08:44:00.000-05:00

Is you face sagging? What should you do?” Its not surprising most women are confused given the amount of advertising we are bombarded with daily on how to look younger. So what’s the first step to tightening up you skin? Is it Retin-A or a moisturizer? Laser treatments? A facelift?
All of these things will work to varying degrees. Your best bet is to find a dermatologist who is experienced with non-invasive anti-aging techniques. Your dermatologist can determine how best to proceed given the condition of your skin and your health, genetics, and lifestyle. The best bang for the buck seems to be the Frational laser. These treatments stimulate the skin to produce more collagen, literally plumping up the lines on your face. You will see results from the first treatment but a set of three treatments over a 4-6 month period will give you the best results. Down time? You may be slightly pink for a few days or a week, a big change from laser treatments of days gone by. Many of my clients have had these treatments to “even out” skin coloration, improve acne scars but mostly to soften and reduce wrinkles. Costs vary, but expect to pay around $500 for 1/2 face.
My recommendation in the Washington DC area is The Chevy Chase Cosmetic Center in Chevy Chase Maryland.

Sweater jackets are all the rage!

2007-11-14T23:34:00.000-05:00

Some are cropped, some are long and sleek, and some are big and slouchy. Everywhere you look you will see various versions of the “new” cardigan sweater. Whether you like cropped sweater jackets or the long sweater coats cinched with an accent belt, be sure to look at yourself in a 3-way mirror before taking one home. This year’s fashion item is definitely not for everyone. If you have a few extra pounds around your hips, you might want to pass this one by. Not only do they add bulk, but they can also look frumpy on a curvy body. Don’t think for a minute that this is an appropriate alternative to the power jacket. This casual style only looks great on a Skinny Minnie. Remember, dress for what looks great on you, not what the trends dictate!

Toot, toot, tootsie don't cry!

2007-11-03T14:13:00.000-04:00

After all these years of being told that wearing heels are bad for your back and knees, now doctors are saying that low heels are preferable to flats. It’s important to have the right fit with enough cushion and enough room for your foot. As we age, we lose the cushioning on the bottom of the foot making the foot more sensitive. One doctor has even developed a shoe that converts from a high heel to a low heel in 2 seconds. You feet are working hard for you everyday so be sure to take care of them with moisturizers and callous removal. Also be sure to exercise the muscles in your foot by picking up a pencil or some marbles with your toes.

Do you love your glasses?

2007-10-12T19:26:00.000-04:00

I have never actually enjoyed wearing glasses, until recently that is. Discovering frames that I LOVE has made all the difference.
I now look at glasses as another wardrobe accessory. If you wear glasses most of the time then think of them as part of your image. The style frame you choose can make you look dated or current, boring or memorable. Sometimes you may want the glasses to disappear (frame-less), while other times you may want them to be a fun accessory. Having a non-glare coating is also important. This coating minimizes light reflection on the glass and gives the appearance of making the glass less noticeable. Glasses with this coating always look more attractive and is highly recommended for photo or video shoots.
Shop around for the best pricing. Frames alone cost between $60-$500. Once you add in bifocals and non-glare you have added even more. Think of this purchase as an investment, after-all, this is your face.

What do your glasses say about you?

Could you have rosacea?

2007-10-09T22:17:00.000-04:00

A male sports personality was in the studio today and I noticed that his skin was much pinker than usual. I then asked him if he had skiped using his medication for his rosacea. his comment was, "What rosacea?" I am not a doctor, but having seen hundreds of people with rosacea I am pretty certain when it shows up.
Turns out, at 40 something, he had never been to a dermatologist and had no idea why his skn was so pink.
Rosacea can be controlled with medication and reduced with certain lasers. Intervention is key to slowing its progress.
He promised to get it checked out ASAP.

Going to the dermatologist is a good idea for several reasns: to get rid of skin tags, broken capillaries, whiteheads;
a skin cancer check up, and to learn about the latest in non-invasive anti-aging procedures.

I will be at my Dermatologists office: Chevy Chase Cosmetic Center, 8401 Connecticut Ave,
Oct 18th, 6:30-8 to discuss my up-coming e-book,
"The credibility Factor: The Smart Woman's Guide To Creating a More Powerful Image"
Please bring a friend and stop by with all your skin care questions.

You can buy shoes that are both stylish and comfortable

2007-10-04T17:06:00.001-04:00

It's true! You can have style and comfort for your wonderful feet. Never compromise comfort for style. Make it a priority to keep those tootsie's happy. First, take a look at the shoes displayed in the shoe department. You will notice that this season they are showing a wide range of toe shapes and heels. Unfortunately there are far too many with three inch heels. Don't be tempted into purchasing these puppies if you know they are not perfect for you. They are tough on your feet and your back. There are plenty of fabulous shoes with two inch or under heels. This year you will find round and square toe shoes in many cute styles. Pick what works best for your feet.

If you want to wear pointy toe shoes, you may have to buy them a little larger to give your foot more room. I buy shoes a little larger and slip in a foam pad to give me some extra cushioning. Take the foam pads with you when you go shoe shopping and wear the same knee highs, socks or tights to try on the shoes that you will be using when the shoes will be worn. Pick shoes that have a heel height that is reasonable for you to walk or stand in for the amount of time you plan on wearing the shoes. Be realistic. I rate my shoes according to hours that I can tolerate them on my feet.

Take your time, walk around for a 5-10 minutes in the shoes if you think this you found what you want. If there is any sign of discomfort-do not buy the shoes!
Before you even try on a shoe, pick up the shoe and see if it easily bends. Shoes that do not bend are not an ideal choice for comfort.
Consider buying your shoes from a reputable retailer such as Nordstroms, who will take back a pair of shoes that just plain hurt.
Enjoy the hunt! The right pair of shoes really finishes an ensemble and help you move through your day with confidence, comfort and style.

Learn the secrets of television stylists

2007-10-01T19:36:00.000-04:00

In addition to working on commercials, feature films and a variety of television shows, I am also the makeup artist for a weekday show called, Washington Post Live. it's a sports talk show which airs on comcastsportsnet.
We have quite an array of daily guests including sports writers, players coaches, agents and managers of every sport that you can imagine. Once in a while we even get a woman on the show. I always get the same request: "Tell me what you are doing so I will learn how to do it myself." So many women tell me that they do not enjoy going to the cosmetic counters for advice. They feel intimidated by the heavily painted faces and the youth of the sales personnel (to say nothing of being on display for the world to see).
That's one reason I decided to make an instructional DVD about makeup products and techniques. We all need an objective person helping us find products that really work and an unbiased opinion.
If you would like to know what the difference is between liquid and powder foundation, or how to makeup your eyes or whether you should use cream, powder or cheek stain blush, then you will want to get my DVD: Secrets of Hair and Makeup.
I'll show you my picks of the best products, makeup brushes and hairstyling techniques and "before and afters".
Now you can have instruction in the privacy of your own home. Get some girlfriends together and have some fun!

Hope for women size 10 and beyond

2007-09-30T21:43:00.000-04:00

I went to see Tim Gunn speak at the Corcoran School of Art a few days ago. I assumed he was going to be staid and pompous.
I was pleasently surprised that he was not only modest and self depricating, but also shared his great sense of humor.
Now that he has a makeover style show and Project Runway and works for Liz Claiborne, his take on fashion is more realistic and practical then when he was a dean at Parsons School of Design.
There is now hope that, with Tim's influence, we may have a company that will develope clothing flattering for women size 10 and beyond.

With 42million women over 40 wouldn't you think someone would realize that this is a market segment that needs help?

Women say the worst things about the image they see in the mirror

2007-09-27T17:33:00.000-04:00

“Sticks and stones can hurt my bones but words can never hurt me”

How bogus is that? As a child I believed this, but as I grew up I realized how untrue that little ditty really is. Words have power. Power to wound, power to inspire, power to pass on wisdom, power to proclaim the truth.

The words that those we love and respect speak carry tremendous power, but none have the impact on our psyche as much as our own “inner speak”. The words we say, moment to moment to ourselves, will strongly influence our fears, actions and attitudes but also how we view ourselves. If your inner voice is constantly telling you that you are old, fat or unattractive, then that becomes your self-fulfilling prophecy. Until you understand that becoming more beautiful is less about the lipstick you choose and more about feeling good about who you see in the mirror; then you will never be satisfied with who you see staring back at you.
The truth is: if you change your inner speak, you change your life.

That is the power of words.

What is the most important item in your makeup bag?

2007-09-23T21:54:00.000-04:00

My concealer is definitely the most important item in my makeup bag. Yes, I do need blush and mascara, but nothing makes more of an impact as the use of my concealer.

With the swipe of the brush I can wipe out dark circles, a sun- spot or two and a blemish on my chin. There are three tricks to finding the right concealer: consistency, coverage and color. I want a concealer that doesn’t settle into the fine lines yet one that has enough opaqueness to “conceal” what I am trying to camouflage.

When purchasing a concealer avoid products with light- reflecting qualities if you also plan to use it to hide anything other than dark circles. Light reflecting properties are great for under eyes but there is no point in drawing attention to blemishes, broken capillaries or redness you are trying to cover.
Color is also important. The shade you choose should be slightly lighter than the skin tone on your face.

My beloved concealer is so critical to me that I keep one at home, one in my purse and I even stash a spare. I’ve spent a small fortune trying dozens of concealers so now I’m hoping they never discontinue the one that finally works perfectly for me.
There are lots of good products to choose from. Some of my favorites are from Lancome, Origin, Neutrogena and Glo Minerals. I use Glo Mineral (color: golden).

My advice: when you find the one you really like, buy three!

Are manicures a "must"?

2007-09-18T11:53:00.000-04:00

I get this question often. Absolutely not, but clean, evenly filed nails are a must. If you do not have the time or money, take the time to clean and shape your nails.
Here are some rules of thumb (excuse the pun):

All the nails should be the same length. If a nail breaks off, shorten all the nails to create continuity.
Never wear chipped polish
Always apply polish even if it is just a clear topcoat.
Avoid loud colors or frosted shades, designs and paintings on nails
Consider a french manicure so that your nail color will not conflict with your ensembles

if you do not like the look of a french manicure, consider an American manicure which is similar but less stark and more natural in appearance.

5 Reasons women slip into frumpdom

2007-09-16T11:45:00.000-04:00

1. I have children- It is easy to rationalize wearing loose-fitting, washable clothing when you are raising kids. Sticky fingers and mud pies are part of the package. Instead of athletic wear, get some washable trousers and tops that can be dressed up or down. No need to wear jewelry when you are playing with the kids, but comfortable, fashionable shoes and well tended hair and makeup suddenly take that casual “play” outfit and to a more polished appearance.

2. It is too late, I am too old- Nonsense! I have clients in their 70’s and 80’s.
Never give up. It is never too late to revamp your image. Need help? Email me, I will make sure you get to where you want to go when it comes to image.

3. I don’t know how to do anything else- We all get stuck in rut sometimes and need an objective person to pull us out! I can help you look current and fashionable without “crossing the line.” No one wants to look foolish. Don’t worry frumpdom isn’t about age, it’s a state of mind. If you are realy stuck, email me. We can set up an appointment with Skype and get you back on track.

4. It doesn’t matter- Of course it matters! If you are constantly interrupted by others or not being taken seriously or if you feel “all washed up” then it matters.
It matters that you like what you see in the mirror each day and it matters how the world perceives you. I don’t know about you, but I want to be seen as a vibrant, capable woman who is aging gracefully.

5. I don’t have time- Few of us have time, we must make time and take time.
Give up an hour of sleep (or go to bed earlier) so you can walk or exercise each morning. Add 5 minutes more to your daily routine so you can apply makeup and style your hair. If I can work 10 hour days and make time to exercise, dress up, and cook dinner each night, so can you! Carpe Diem!

Six ways to look younger instantly!

2007-09-12T12:13:00.000-04:00

Today on the set, one of the actresses asked me how she could “instantly” look younger.
Instantly being the key word. Since I have spent most of my life making people look younger, taller and thinner, this was right up my alley.

1. Show some skin- Long skirts and turtlenecks can add pounds and look matronly on women over 40. Wear v-necks and 3/4 length sleeves and you will instantly look younger.

2. Color your hair- Some people look great in silver hair but keep in mind that most people will look 10-15 years younger with color in their hair.

3. Get some Spanx- There is no question that we look older when we are over-weight. Power panties are not your mother’s girdle. These little babies comfortably take you down a size. Hooray!

4. Dump the frumpy shoes- Do not wear worn-out shoes in public. Find shoes that are both comfortable and stylish. It can be done! Email me for specifics.

5. Conceal those dark circles- Makeup is incredibly helpful in softening the signs of aging: uneven skin tone, dark circles, fading eye and lip color and thinning eyelashes and eyebrows. Which concealer is my personal favorite? Glo Minerals (color: golden).

6. Get my DVD, “ Ten Pounds Thinner, Ten Years Younger”
I’ll show you dozens of ways to look younger and thinner.
It’s a fun way to learn because you see the results right before your eyes!

Fashion week...do I care?

2007-09-10T08:48:00.000-04:00

I love the act of dressing each morning. I see it as an opportunity to tell the world what I have to offer. I always consider style, drape and color when choosing what goes on my body, but in the end, clothing for me is primarily functional. The goal is to get my message across while feeling attractive and comfortable. Then fashion week comes along. Fashion week has always intrigued and frustrated me. I am fascinated by the idea that some think of clothing as an ART form. Clothing designs are stitched into ensembles that rarely resemble anything that a less than 6 foot, 110lb. women would consider wearing. Let's face it, it's a challenge to make these women look bad in anything. Soon we will see the trickle down of these designs in our very own stores and we will go shopping and say, once again, "I just can't find something that really looks good on me."

I resent the fact that what I am wearing is decided by people who seem to have forgotten average sized women. When are we going to turn the tables and let the designers know what we want? We need to give the designers and the buyers a reality check. Our collective voices can now be heard by emailing designers, manufacturers and retail stores. Let them know that we want clothing flattering to women with less than perfect bodies. We want colors that flatter our skin tones. We want stylish casual wear as well as powerful designs that scream crediblity for business-wear.

Fashion week do I care? Yes, in the end I do.

Why settle? Go for comfort and style!

2007-09-07T20:06:00.000-04:00

For those of us who want to look vibrant and memorable, without breaking the bank. We crave items that combine comfort and style. The huge success of Chico’s is a call to action by women who want upscale, casual attire with individuality and comfort.
The artistic looks are fun and the textures are luscious.

But, where are the choices for women who want a fitted look opposed to the short boxy jackets at Chico’s? Where are the pieces for women that are long-waisted? What about those who want to camouflage their expanding girth?
Where are the business suits or separates that have texture, colors and fabrics that separate them from their boring counterparts?
Wake up designers! We need something besides art and boring functionality.
Repeat after me:
“I will no longer stand for looking mediocre. I want my clothing, hairstyle and makeup to be current and fresh, but complimentary on me.”

Do you need to rethink your image?

2007-09-06T19:22:00.000-04:00

I usually get the call right about the time a woman hits 50. They call me desperate for help - frustrated with how they look with those extra few pounds, the emerging gray hairs or the new found changes in her slightly aging face. Just when they had “ageing gracefully” down pat, along comes a reunion, Bar Mitzvah or an insensitive comment by a friend which sends them into a private pity party about their appearance. Some are terrified of “getting old” while others feel hopeless and sad about the encroaching sand of time, knocking on their door. Suddenly they notice they have stained teeth, poor eyesight, thinning, graying hair and a little extra thickness around the middle.

It’s no wonder women are sometimes overwhelmed with all the changes of moving into midlife.

After working as a stylist for more than 25 years, I can help you take 3 steps to make this moment easier:

1. Get a gynecologist that is experienced with menopausal women. This is going to help you with all the physical issues that make this time of life challenging.

2. Get moving. Dance, walk, swim…do anything to get moving. Your youthfulness and longevity are more affected by this than anything else you can do. Not only will you get those extra pounds off your waist, you will feel so much better, too. Never underestimate all the benefits of making your body move. At a minimum you will just be happier. Just remember the old adage: use it or lose it.

3. Reassess and update your appearance.
What is driving your look? Is it comfort, style, credibility, or are you in a rut and just grab whatever is clean? Women tell me they begin to feel invisible as they age and that’s not surprising. As we age we lose pigment in our lips, iris and hair color. Skin tone and hair texture changes. What worked for us at 30 no longer looks right anymore. We sometimes focus on comfort at the expense of style. No one wants to be thought of as old and washed up. So why do so many women send that exact message? Time to update your hairstyle, reassess your wardrobe and lose a few pounds. Need help? Check out my DVD series on Amazon.com or order from kimfoleystyle.com

Clothing buyers need to know their demographics

2007-09-04T10:00:00.000-04:00

While shopping for an outfit for an afternoon wedding I became painfully aware that the majority of styles available would only look good on someone under size 6. Common sense tells you that fullness adds volume. I do not need or want volume. I want slimming, I want optical illusions, and I want something that actually flatters my curvy body! Just who was it that decided that gathered skirts and babydoll dresses are what women get to wear this year? Don’t the designers know that the average size of women in this country is size 14? It is time that the manufactures take note that those of us over size 6 want the option to dress with power and credibility for work and look current, hip and sometimes even sexy for evenings.
Lets face it, most styles this year look flattering on young, slim 20 somethings. But if you’ve got a few extra pounds or you are over 35 you are out of luck.
Buyers take note: We want flattering lines that flatter our not-so-perfect shape.

Five Ways To Jump-Start Your Journey Back To Fabulous

2007-06-25T13:42:00.000-04:00

There is a whole generation of women who want to look great and don’t know where to start. Some need an update, some a total revamp and some just need a few tips and inspiration.
Where do you turn? Who can you trust when everyone wants to sell you their products. Women are tired of buying hope, they want results. Well I’m here to help! I‘ve got the facts on how you can look beautiful everyday when you look in the mirror.
Keeping in mind that there are always exceptions to every rule. Here are a few basic facts that, like them or not, may help you to get started thinking about changes to consider.

1. Grey or silver hair looks great on certain women, but there is no question that it adds 10-15 years to your perceived age.

2. Miniskirts, belly shirts, and super low-rise pants are no-no’s after 40, even if you are in great shape. Why? Because they make you look like you are trying too hard to be 25 again. Wear great fitting clothes that are age-appropriate, stylish, flattering—and won’t send the wrong message.

3. Mousey hair with no style doesn’t look good on any woman. Consider getting a great cut that’s easy for you to style so you will look great everyday.

4. Being overweight makes you look older than you are. If you combine a getting-in-shape program with changes in your hair, makeup, and wardrobe, you will maximize the results of both efforts. You will also amaze yourself, as well as everyone around you, with your new, revitalized look.

5. Shoes are very important both to how you feel and to your overall look. You don’t have to wear frumpy shoes to be comfortable!

Eyebrow Shapes

2007-05-10T14:01:00.000-04:00

Evil women throughout history have always been portrayed with severe and often highly arched eyebrows. Just look at the 3 top women nominated for the Oscar this year. They all played vicious or unlikable characters whose temperament and attitude was partly created by their eyebrow shape. Eyebrows are odd. For little groupings of hair above our eyes they sure do evoke a lot of assumptions. Mean, angry, surprised or sad, and relaxed. These are just some of the feelings that are evoked when we see the oh so expressive eyebrows.
What do your eyebrows tell the world about you?

Pedicure Tip

2007-05-05T13:59:00.000-04:00

I heard on the radio today that you are not supposed to have your cuticles pushed back on your toes when you get a pedicure. Evidently the skin on the toenails keeps bacteria from invading the skin around the toe. This dark moist area is prone to fungus and inflammation. Great…One more thing to worry about. My pedicurist argued with me when I asked her not to push back the cuticles. I explained, with a smile, that she could clean, scrub, shape, buff and polish, but absolutely no pushing those cuticles around. I feel empowered now that I have been an advocate for my happy feet!

Getting Rid of Stray Hairs

2007-04-30T13:54:00.000-04:00

Please get a magnifying mirror! Today on the set, a 50ish client who was about to go on national television, sat down in my chair to have her makeup done. She was attractive and polished and needed very little makeup but she had this long black hair growing out of her chin! I didn’t want to embarrass her but I couldn’t let her go on TV with that hair. I asked her if she used a magnifying mirror and good light to apply her makeup each morning. Her answer was obviously, “No”. I held up a mirror and showed her the hair. Much to my surprise she said, “Well just what do I do about that?”
This was her first “wild- woman hair” and she wanted to know if she should wax it, pluck it, laser it, or shave it.
Answer: If you have just a few and you have bright light AND a magnifying mirror, just pluck it. But if you can’t change your lighting and don’t plan on buying a magnifying mirror, you should march right in to have those babies lasered. It usually takes a few visits to get permanent results but you will never be caught in public with the horror of THE HAIR making you look like a fool.

Fashion Trends

2007-04-20T13:49:00.000-04:00

Fashion trends from the runways of Paris and Milan scream at me to take a peek. Even the Wall street Journal can’t resist commenting. I scan the designs wondering what the trickle down will be. I am dismayed at the thought of thirty something men dictating what I will be wearing. “Corsets and Skinny pants are not going on this body” I think as I take another look. Just where do all these people wear all their silk and cashmere? Can practicality ever be part of haute couture?

Makeover Show Exploits Fear of Aging

2006-10-25T14:18:00.000-04:00

Considering how I make my living, I am shocked that I got totally fascinated watching “Extreme Makeover!”
After all, transformations are what I do everyday. I have spent more than 25 years standing 8 or more hours a day in front of a mirror. Not to look at myself (although I do occasionally take a peek), but to help my clients find their absolute best “look” while they are being seen by millions of viewers. As a television stylist my job is to make people look capable, smart, trustworthy and healthy, and sometimes thinner, younger and more attractive.

Lets face it, (no pun intended) no matter how you feel about taking extreme measures to improve your appearance, it is painfully clear that some people got a set of genes that make it diffficult for them to feel comfortable with their appearance in this society which is obsessed with youth, slenderness and beauty.

Being in the beauty industry is sometimes difficult for me. I have a strong sense of what defines a persons value and this has little to do with appearance, yet ironically, I am sure my “life’s purpose” is to help people find joy in what they see every day when they look in the mirror. I have learned, however, that if you aren’t happy with who you are on the inside, you will never like who you see staring back at you in the mirror. (Hence the multiple rounds of plastic surgery some people go through never finding the satisfaction they seek.)

Since our society has bought into the notion that only youthful women are highly prized, women are flocking in droves to maintain a youthful appearance at all costs.
Where are the voices of reason? Where is the voice of moderation? Where is the message to our culture that what kind of person your are and what your values are is what determines your value to society?

No one wants to speak out against the status quo lest they be shunned by Madison Avenue, which has turned preying on the hopes and fears of women over 40 into an art. No one wants to speak up against this insanity because everyone wants to cash in on all the aging boomers who are desperate to stay young at any cost.
We all know there is no fountain of youth: yet otherwise intelligent women will buy the most expensive face creams they can afford…just in case it may do something to minimize the effects of aging. Crazy as it seems, they are not buying results. Billions of dollars are spent every year to purchase hope. One would think that most important issue to women must be “to be desired.” Why else do we want so desperately to erase all signs of the aging and hold on to youth? Is “old” synonymous with “worthless?”
What has caused this disdain of growing older? Whatever happened to growing older with dignity and grace? I firmly believe that how a person looks has the power to make or break careers, goals and dreams. But, I also believe it's time for us all to challenge the assumption that old equals unattractive and beauty requires youth.

10 Ways to Update Your Style

2006-09-17T12:39:00.000-04:00

1. Ditch the liner under the eye. As you age you don’t want to draw attention to the area under the eye (besides, a noticeable line under the eye is a very dated 80’s look) If you really need a little definition, use a brown powder with a brush to apply a very soft line at the base of the lashes with as slant brush.

2. Wear pants that are 1 – 3 inches below the navel (no low riders). Nothing says “granny pants” more than pants that are too high in the waist area.

3. Re-evaluate your glasses. Are they THE most flattering frames for YOUR face? Go for the ones you love in spite of the costs. Remember, this is your face, the one part of you that everyone sees. Definitely get the non-glare coating. NO tint to the lenses–it just make the under eye area look darker. Consider taking a friend with you to try on frames, it is almost impossible to be objective with yourself.

Makeup Tips/ Product Reviews

2006-09-06T12:40:00.000-04:00

Foundation
As a makeup artist and stylist I am constantly trying new products. With the thousands of possible choices it is not surprising that women seem to have the most difficulty when it comes to finding a foundation. Finding the right foundation is tricky because it needs to have the right consistency and coverage for each individual and it has to be the right color. The right foundation doesn’t look like you are wearing makeup but brightens and evens out your skin tone while diffusing fine lines.

First of all, realize that all foundations are hypoallergenic. No, they do not clog your pores or cause you to break out. If your skin tone is “even” (without blemishes, age spots or broken capillaries) you need minimal or light coverage (less pigment). Otherwise, a medium or more heavily pigmented product will be better for you. As we age we may also want a product doesn’t make our skin look dry, but reflects light, minimizing fine lines.
One that stands out as easy to find, economical and has beautiful skin tones, is Revlon’s Age defying Makeup (red cap). I have a summer and a winter shade and particularly like to use it in the winter when my skin is dryer. I also like using a mineral powder makeup April-November when my skin is not as dry. How do you find the correct shade? At these prices you can afford to buy a few shades. Apply a dab to your lower jaw or neck and blend. If you do not see the foundation, it is the correct shade. Some drug stores allow you to return what doesn’t match, with your receipt, to the store.

Fashion Faux Pas No One Will Tell You About

2006-08-10T14:17:00.000-04:00

Have you ever made a hasty judgement of someone and then discovered later that you were wrong? How many times a week do people meet you and make wrong assumptions about you? Most of the time, we reflect on the outside what is going on in the inside. Our appearance is chock-full of information for those around us. Research tells us that in seconds, people have made assumptions about your economic status, education level, health, social status and believability. We all know that body language can sabotage your message but are you aware that your appearance can do the same thing?

1. Showing your underwear at the waist when you bend over. Either your underpants are too high or your top is too short. Match the height of your pants to the undergarment for best results.

2. Having your slip show in the slit of a skirt while you are walking. Do you really need that slip? If so make sure you customize the slip or wear one that comes above the top of the slit.

3. Wearing reinforced-toe stockings with open - toed shoes. Open toed shoes look much better with no stockings but if you must then choose sheer to waist hoisery.

4. Visable panty line under clothing No excuse these days between thongs and power panties you never need to have a line. Also, your pants, skirt or dress may be hugging instead of skimming your backside. Wear a size up for that sophisticated “drape” effect.

5. Bra strap showing…. They tried to make this a fashion trend but it always looks cheap.
Get a strapless that feels comfortable and gives you a good silouette.

6. Body odor, too much perfume or bad breath. This is something that few people can really judge for themselves. If you are bathing daily and using deodorant you should be OK. If not talk to your doctor. Too much perfume is offensive too. Since we all have personal preferences for scents, avoid perfume or colognes for work and just go with clean. Just bushing your teeth will not get rid of bad breath. You may need to be more conscious of flossing. Your gums may be inflamed causing discomfort and odor. If this is the case, mouthwash, breath strips and mints will mask the problem without really solving the problem.

7. Too much fake tan. Fake tan is great if used modestly for creating a touch of color to tone down that chalky, winter white skin. But don’t get sucked into the thinking, ”if a little is good, a lot is better” mentality. Too much “fake tan” only looks orangey and contrived. It is much better to be lily white than having people do double takes wondering what you were thinking.

8. Lips that look “drawn on”. Yes, I know lip liners are great when you have lines around your mouth, but please match your lip color to your liner. It is true that our lips fade in color as we age, but don’t overcompensate by going really bright or dark with a hard line around your mouth. A youthful mouth is slightly deeper in color than the skin. Gloss is fine but frosted or iridescence products are aging.

9. Peg-leg pants are only flattering on emaciated runway models. Narrow at the ankles only make your hips look wider. Go with slightly flared.

10. Clothing that is too tight exposing rolls in your torso. Unsightly bulges can be disguised in a jiffy simply by wearing a non-stretchy silk-like cami under tops.
Also, pick styles and sizes that drape (hang without conforming to the body) instead of stretchy, body hugging blouses.